Moving your elderly loved one into assisted living may be one of the most difficult decisions you’ll have to make in your life. Many caregivers feel bad about “placing family in assisted living,” which means sending their loved ones in assisted living communities. Understanding what’s generating the guilt might help you accept the choice and lessen emotional stress while you’re adjusting to the adjustments. We discuss the top 3 reasons why you may feel bad about transferring your parents or loved ones to assisted living.
- Thinking You’ve Failed to Care for Them
That is not correct. You’re ensuring that they’ll receive the necessary care. Moving someone to assisted living does not imply that you have failed to care for them. It implies you’re making the difficult decision to prioritize their safety and health and giving them the kind of care they require, which may not be achievable at home in the long run.
You’ll probably still spend a lot of time with them, checking in with personnel, advocating for their needs, as well as managing their overall care. You are taking better care of your elderly parents and have not abandoned them.
- Thinking You are Poor at Caregiving
That is also incorrect. You’re trying your best, which is all anyone can possibly expect. Each family’s circumstance is unique, and you don’t know their entire story, so comparing yourself to others isn’t fair. Your elderly relative may have more significant health issues or require more care than you can offer at home. And if your own health is deteriorating or someone is at risk of being wounded, it’s time to make a change in your living circumstances.
In these cases, transferring your elderly relative safeguards both your health and safety while also allowing them to receive the care they require. Furthermore, if you don’t safeguard your own health, you won’t be able to care for them for much longer.
- Thinking You’ve Caused them to be More Ill at Home
Controlling someone’s health or cognitive abilities is impossible. It’s natural to second-guess ourselves, yet no one can anticipate or control the future. You may believe that things might have turned out differently if you had kept your elderly relative at home. However, it’s possible that the result would have been the same.
Or, if you hadn’t opted to relocate them to assisted living, things may have been far worse. Remember, you made this difficult decision because the degree of care they need at home was no longer sustainable.
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