Not knowing how your parent will react to discussing the topic of moving to memory care with your aging parent can make it an intimidating idea. However, memory care is an outstanding option for the elderly who struggle with memory loss due to conditions such as the various types of dementia. Make the transition to memory care easier by discussing it with your aging parent effectively.
Receive Support from Other Family Members
Coming to a consensus about your parent’s transition to memory care beforehand can prevent several problems that can arise during this period, such as rising tensions between your family members. Make sure to phrase yourself in a way that helps your family members understand your aging parent’s need for memory care services. For example, talk at length about the primary caregiver’s experiences with your parent’s condition, and the importance of receiving professional care when your parent’s condition requires it.
Tour Memory Care Facilities Beforehand
Before speaking to your parent directly about the matter, you can do some on-field research so that you understand what you’re getting both of yourselves into better. Most memory care community teams are more than willing to schedule a tour with you and as a resource for you to refer to as a professional. Speaking to your parent from a more educated, informed point of view will be better for both of you in the long run. Not only will you be more convincing in your suggestion for your parent to enter memory care, but your parent will also be more reassured that you’re making a conscious decision for the sake of their wellbeing.
Consider Who Should Be Involved
During the conversation, you should pick the other parties involved in the discussion carefully, as it will influence how receptive your loved one is to your suggestion. For example, if your parent has a close relationship of trust with multiple of their adult children including yourself, you should choose a more collaborative approach. Your parent being able to hear a united stance from their support network will allow them to make a more confident decision, knowing that they have a support network available for them even in memory care. On the other hand, if your elderly loved one is still sensitive about their condition, it’s wise to stick to a one-on-one conversation that gives them a stronger sense of security.
Establish a Positive Tone
A successful conversation with your aging parent about their need to transition into memory care starts with establishing a consistent, positive tone of encouragement. For example, rather than being overly clinical in your explanation, try to keep it conversational. In terms of content, try to focus on the positives of memory care such as safety and a new social network. On the other hand, try not to fixate on the difficult parts of the transition such as adjusting to their new home and any logistical issues.
Don’t forget to add TerraBella Hillsborough to your list of memory care communities to tour! Our memory care program sets a superb standard of care that’ll ensure your aging loved one enjoys a fulfilling retirement life despite the obstacles that memory loss may bring.
